Before we begin: If you’re perfectly content with your life the way it is right now, you can stop reading here. This isn’t for who is already where they want to be. I want to talk to whomever wants to change and get on the next level but isn’t sure how to do it or what to do next.
Ask a friend to describe a bad guy. What images come to mind? Rude, selfish, macho. We can all generally agree that a bad guy is not someone we would prefer to hang out with. They give off repulsive vibes and actually drain our energy simply by proximity.
Now ask a friend to describe a good guy. I’m sure you think of funny, generous, accommodating. You tell your friends about good guys. You invite them to parties and activities. “Oh he’s such a good guy, can’t wait for you to meet him.”
Trick question: How do you describe a nice guy? Chances are, you just used similar qualities of a good guy. And you’d be pretty much right. Both good guys and nice guys foster pleasant environments. Both are a joy to be around. Both come through for you when you need a hand.
So what’s the real difference?
The difference is how you feel, not what you see.
What if I told you that, when I asked you to describe a good guy, you actually described a nice guy? Well, you would have if you stopped there. Spoiler alert: A good guy is an evolved nice guy. A good guy shows all the same behaviors of a nice guy and then some. And that “some” lies in his manner and intent.
Stay with me. This is important to be aware of, especially if you think you’re a good guy but struggling with work or relationships because people don’t really respect you, i.e. treat you like a nice guy or avoid you because you’re a bad guy. If this is the case, you already know what I’m talking about.
- Why would you want to be a good guy?
- Does it take a lot of work?
- Is it worth the trouble?
All are valid questions and the answer to all of them is “yes and there’s only one way to find out.” I could go on and on about the benefits of eating better or serving others or exercising, but it would be lost. You’ll appreciate my advice by practicing it, making it work for your life, and experiencing the wonderful payout for yourself.
All I can (and will) offer you is my experience: the things I’ve learned & applied and the effects that I’ve caused. I can confidently say that making the changes has been pleasantly worth it.
Let’s get down to business.
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